Festive season is over. New year had begun. It will be a while before the gift giving frenzy starts. Some decide it is too much to give gifts and not give at all. Others do ‘chris cringles’, select one person to give, and yet others give everybody either happily or begrudgingly. However, during the lead up to Christmas just about everyone has this exasperated sigh in their conversation – “I haven’t even started my Christmas shopping yet”, “I don’t know what to give”, “I might just give a gift card or money, they can get what they want”… etc., etc,
Is gift giving a token gesture or is it more than that? Why do we give gifts anyway? Can we be unacceptable to each other during the entire year and expect to change that through a token gesture? Lot of questions that I am sure we ponder upon every year during the festive season.
We all want to do the best for the other. We want to give as giving is our nature.
Did you ever stop to think of the greatest gift that we can ever give to each other? Is there such a thing as greatest gift?
Yes there is…
The greatest gift that we can give is…….
“Allowing others TO BE….”
Sad, Mad or Glad;
Silly or Jolly;
Content or Discontent;
or any number of combinations that we find expressed as human nature.
Allowing others TO BE, without judgment, criticisms, opinions, approval, disapproval etc., etc, is the greatest gift we can give each other.
Why is this a greatest gift?
1. It maintains human harmony.
2. It maintains personal health. When we have no judgments on others, we have no issues with our emotional status ( no imbalance). Emotional imbalance is a primary cause for dis-ease.
3. It brings social cohesion through transparency. Allowing others ‘TO BE’ helps them to make choices freely. As people can relate to us as they are, our friendships improve. Others find it comfortable to be in our presence.
4. This gift has no ‘expiry date’ or ‘return policy’ and is perpetual as well as refreshingly new each time.
Is it easy to give a gift?
Yes, only if we are comfortable in who we are.
Often, we judge in others what we find in ourselves as unacceptable. Our disappointments and frustrations increase as our expectations are not met and we end up withdrawing Love or limiting our love.
When we are comfortable in our own skin and have accepted ourselves completely and unconditionally, then we have the capacity to accept the other completely and unconditionally. We do this well with strangers but often fail to do this with people who are close to us.
The key to get to this state of being is to acknowledge the source of power within, which is the same in everyone and ignore the outer boundaries or shells. The source within wants only one thing – to express itself grandly. That expression is only possible when we allow it through acceptance.
If it is such an easy to give gift, why do we hesitate to do so…
because we are not taught how to do this. We are living and growing in times where blame is the name of the game and expecting everybody else to change is the rule to win the game. Allowing others ‘to be’ is a threat to our identity. We exclusively talk about being inclusive. The distinctive differences in appearances firmly keep us entrenched in our ‘us’ and ‘them’ thinking and we poke our heads through our silos and extend our hands over to make friendships. We ‘tolerate’ each other than ‘understand’ each other. Tolerance hardens the walls of the silos whilst understanding makes them porous.
What can we do to promote ‘understanding and acceptance’
When we put ourselves in the other’s shoes and judge our actions against that background, understanding will improve and acceptance follows when we are being ourselves.
So, the the greatest gift that we can give others is allowing them TO BE and the key to do this is to be understanding and accepting of ourselves as we are.
Isn’t that a double pronged gift?
What do you think?
Agree or disagree – leave a comment. Would love to hear from you.
Until Next Week
With Love and Respect
PS: New Year resolution of mine to write this blog once a week and post every Saturday. I know today is Sunday, I missed it because I wasn’t well yesterday. But I intend to keep to this schedule of posting every Saturday and I hope you will join me on Saturday’s. Your suggestions on topics also is most welcome.
This blog post ( a re post from 2011) is to offer a gift to all my readers, who actually grew in number recently. Thank you for taking time to read and comment. I really appreciate it.
As we finish the holiday season filled with joy, fun, friendship and love and enter the busy lives of work and chores and routines and tasks, let us take a look at how to bring more of what we cherish.
I have grown to believe that every day is a festival if we want it to be. The choice is ours. If we dwell in our story and only look at the story taking wrong turns, then it will be hard to share the love.
‘ Love’ stands right there at the top of the list along with Truth, Peace, Right-Conduct and Non-Violence.
However what we find in today’s fast paced society is that these are the rapidly declining values. We all agree that we need to slow down and bring back our attention to how we manifest what we truly are – Love
As it is said in the Bible
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Can we live up to that – Yes we can
Do we have the potential – Of course we do
Its just that our potential to love is covered under the many layers of soot of busyness, of trying to win the rat race, of selfishness, of greed, of jealousy, of envy, of anger, of hatred, of desire etc.,
When we blow this soot away gently with the winds of Truth and Right-Conduct , the embers of red hot Love will be visible underneath glowing in Peace and Non-Violence.
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Wish you all a very Happy New Year. Hope 2015 brings you all the joy, happiness, health and wealth that you deserve.
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Until next time
With Love and Respect