Do you know what is the 2nd Enemy that robs your health? An enemy that is likely the biggest cause of most diseases from high blood pressure to heart attacks to cancers? An enemy that is our constant companion ”until death do us apart”
Do you know what it is?
WORRY – an invading, pervading, contracting, utterly debilitating and a totally unnecessary force.
From security of you to safety of your loved ones, from how you look to what others think of you and a whole range of things in between – mostly about your loved ones, you constantly worry.
Right now, amongst many other things, I am worried that I cannot write about Worry properly.
You really don’t need any reason for worry – do you? You worry about worrying so much. You worry if you don’t have anything to worry about.
In the darkness of the night, when you are lying in bed fast asleep, worry arrives marching like an army band proudly displaying all its shiny brass instruments, playing same songs again and again without harmony, to the steady beat of the big drums that increasingly get louder with every beat , creating a cacophony of noise, drowning and sinking you.
The sizzling hot iron of worry in a cold night somehow cools down and melts like snow in the warmth of the day light. Worry gets blinded by the light and goes to sleep – temporarily, only to wake up again to play.
Why do you worry so much – knowing that it doesn’t offer any solutions, knowing that it doesn’t allow you to act.
There is mild worry like a dull head ache and there is chronic worry that causes anxiety and panic attacks.
What do you do about it – if anything?
Can you ever be worry free?
Yes, only when you are a mindfully mindless saint or a mindlessly stiff corpse.
Anywhere in between, which is where we all are, we will have to accept that worry will be an unwanted guest that is irritatingly polite but stubborn in insisting that we need its company.
What do you do with it then?
- You allow it to raise its head and announce its presence
- You acknowledge its arrival
- You tolerate its arguments
- You don’t counter argue with it
- You get compassionate with it and tell it that you know it is concerned
- You assure it that you are doing everything you can about its concerns.
- You breathe deeply and say ‘I understand’
- Now that you have promised to address its concerns, you ask it to be quiet
- You love it and make peace with it
In other words, you are not caught up in its story. You listen to its story like a mother listening to a child who is hurt and throwing a tantrum – with deep understanding and empathy, without judgment.
Remember Understanding leads to Adjustment – so you say ‘Yes’ to its presence, show that you understand its concerns and watch how happily it dissolves into nothingness trusting that you will take care of its case, so well presented.
So, in the middle of the night, when worry clings to you, stroke it gently and say ‘ I love you, I understand’ and ask its permission to release you from its grip. Then, write down that worry/worries, on pieces of paper and deposit them in a drawer or even a shoe box labelled ‘Worries’. A physical act like that is saying ‘yes’ to its presence, acknowledging and comforting it that you have taken an action and asking permission to be released.
It is a game, but you have to play it so Worry becomes a friend that is honest and loyal and intervenes only when necessary, not a foe that destroys you. Hurrying the worry to go away does not help, it will only return with increased force. Hurry also causes worry.
So, do you have any other tricks or tips to stop Worry to cause dis-ease? Tell me.
Visit here again next week for the 3rd enemy that robs your health.
Until then – don’t worry……..please
With Love and Respect