Learning to BE………..


Angry, sad, worried, depressed or

Joyful, happy, cheerful and full of life?

It is funny, no one taught us how to be worried, sad, angry or depressed.  They seem to be natural companions most of the time.  Why do we need to then learn to be happy, joyful and cheerful.  Why do we look to somebody or something to teach us how to be happy?  Are we born worried and sad or are we born happy?  Which is a natural state of mind?

If I am an embodiment of Spirit, are any of these states of being separate from my spirit?  We make such a distinction between me and mine – my spirit, my feelings, my being…..Is what I am being separate to me?  Has anger, sadness, happiness, worry have a separate form from me?  If I were to give shape to my feelings and emotions and put them in front of me, what do they look like?  Can I even do that?

Yet I do that all the time. I separate myself from my feelings and emotions and actually have a dialogue with myself about them. How strange? In the actual moment of my feeling whatever…. am I aware of that emotion?  Or is it after I finished feeling, that I suddenly realise – “I was feeling….. or I was………..” Am I separate to what I am feeling?

All spiritual discourses lead us to recognise the fact that we are not separate from what we go through – the fact that “I am that I am….”  What does that even mean – “I am that I am”?

I think it means – learning to BE whatever it is that I am being.  If I am angry, I have to learn to BE anger and not have this ridiculous dialogue within me about my anger as if it is a separate entity to me.  If I accept that and learn that “I AM ANGER” when “I am being angry”, then there is no need to spend money on anger management classes – is there?

What happens if I am aware and know that “I am anger”,  not “I am being angry” (substitute any emotion) – in other words, learning to BE the feeling/emotion, not learning to manage the feeling – what happens to it?

Try it now – stop for a moment.  While reading this, if you are thinking – “How ridiculous is she for saying this..” you are judging.  When you recognise this – instead of saying “I am judging and I shouldn’t”, try saying to yourself – “I am judgement”.  Not “I am being judgemental”, but “I AM JUDGEMENT”.  See what happens

The judgement dissipates, vanishes, disappears into thin air and you are left – as pure as you can be.  In that awareness, in that acceptance, is the tremendous state of Pure Being.  Try it……

It is not about improving oneself, it is not about taking ownership, it is not about learning to BE a better person.  It is a complete, total, utter acceptance and recognition of who you are in any given moment.  Then there is no separation between you, your feelings, your surroundings etc., YOU ARE IT.  You are what you go through and that is what LEARNING TO BE is all about.

Learning to BE anger, Learning to BE wonder

Learning to BE Joy, Learning to BE misery

Learning to BE worry, Learning to BE ecstacy

There is no separation.

How will that happen?  Through complete acceptance of who I am, being aware that I am not separate to what I am feeling.  As Krishna said in Bhagavadgita – “The Observer is the Observed” or “I am that I am”.

The first step in that process is Self-Awareness. When that awareness kicks in and takes root thoroughly, grows a confidence – a Self-Confidence that is unshakable.  But more on that later.

So, for today try not to disassociate from your emotions and kick yourself for having them.  Learn to BE.  Embody the feeling and emotions.  Accept them.  Do not separate them from you.  They are YOU whether you like it or not. See what happens.

Would love to know how you went.

Until next time – BE………(you fill in the blanks)

Padma Ayyagari




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Padma Ayyagari

I am a Human Values Activist, passionate about and trying to live steeped in Spirituality. I live with the knowledge that Love is the undercurrent of all human life. I believe in Unity of Faiths, Unity in diversity and try and live my life with unity in thought, word and deed. Helping others to lead a life of practical spirituality that will give peace of mind is my passion and life purpose.

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